Advice for Situations

Bereavement

The Death of A Loved One - Grief

The feeling you have when somene you know has died is called grief. Grief affects us all in different ways. It’s important to remember there is no normal way to grief.

Feelings You May Have

You must remember that grief is very complex and makes us have many different feelings.

It is always a shock when someone passes away, whether you know they are going to die or if it is a sudden death.

You may find yourself crying all the time, others do not cry at all. What you must remember is that both of these are normal. Others around you who feel the opposite to how you feel, often get angry at you for not reacting the same as them. Again, this is normal, it doesn’t mean you loved them any less or any more.

You may find yourself unable to sleep, your mind seems to be working overtime.

You may have a dream about the person who has died and when you wake up you get upset as you begin to realise they are no longer with you. You may also have nightmares about the person.

You may not feel like eating after someone has died or you may in turn eat alot more than usual as this feels comforting to you.

You may find yourself going over and over details of their death, especially if it was a sudden death or they died tragically.

You may be physically sick this is normal but can be upsetting for you.

REMEMBER

Within school we have a number of people you can talk to.

We have our very own Mental Health First Aiders, who are fully qualified staff equipped to help you, they are;

Mrs Nicholls Mrs Parnell Mr Bryan Mr Monkman Miss Edwards Mrs Batley Mr Hall Mrs Vaughan Miss Daniels Ms Mundell Mrs Virgo Mr Griffin Mrs Shenton

Please approach any of them, they will help you or someone you know

Resources

Spiral Nottingham

The bereavement team are here to help young people view the support helplines and resoures.

Childline 0800 1111
www.childline.org.uk

Childline is here to help anyone under 19 in the UK with any issue they’re going through. You can talk about anything. Whether it’s something big or small, trained counsellors are on hand to support you.

The Samaritans

Every day, we respond to around 10,000 calls for help. No judgement. No pressure. We’re here for anyone who needs someone.

Partnership for Children

A super print out to help you cope through this difficult time

Traumatic Bereavement Parent/Carer Guide

A very good guide for Parent/Carers that explains traumatic bereavement and helps you to consider if this is what your child is experiencing.

Hope Again

It is a safe place where you can learn from other young people, how to cope with grief, and feel less alone.

Here you will find information about our services, a listening ear from other young people and advice for any young person dealing with the loss of a loved one.

Hope Again provides somewhere to turn to when someone dies.

Young Minds – Grief & Loss

When you lose someone close to you, it’s natural to feel sad, depressed, worried or angry. Everyone reacts in their own way. If you’re finding it hard to cope, we can help you find support.

Young Minds Video

A must see video that shows you, you are not alone

Hope Again In Grief Video

This short film highlights the different emotions explored through a number of young people’s personal journeys of grief and loss.

More importantly, the young people describe how they now continue their loved ones legacy after receiving much needed support from Cruse/Hope Again.

Grief Encounter

One child in every UK classroom will experience the death of someone close by the time they reach 16 years old.

Grief Encounter is here to help with the confusion, fear, loneliness and pain, providing a lifeline to children and young people to cope with free, immediate, one-to-one support.

Childhood Bereavement Network

A first stop if you have suffered a loss of someone dear to you

Download this Getting Through Grief Guide

Help To Make Sense

A super website that has lots of help and advice along with activities, podcasts and games to help with your grief

A Grief Wordsearch

Find the words to describe feelings

Download the Apart Of Me App

Watch the video Apart of Me is a beautiful world, built to guide you through your darkest moments.

Campaign Against Living Miserably

Get support and help call, webchat 365 days a year 5pm to Midnight.
Get help for yourself someone you are worried aout

Help your friend

Offer your support to a friend

Your friend may approach you for advice or just to talk to you about how they are feeling. You may find it hard to know what to say to them, this is normal.

They will be relieved to know there is someone who wants to listen to them, just let them talk, they may open up.

Try not to interupt them, let them speak, they may say they need help, if they do ask if they would like you to do someting for them. You must remember though, that you are not expected to fix their problems.

If you can, ask them to talk to an adult that they trust.

Remember there is help for both your friend and yourself.